Being
Laidback Can Be a Good Thing for Some...
Definition: Relaxed
and easygoing
Synonyms: Free and
easy, casual, nonchalant, unexcitable, imperturbable, unruffled, cool,
even-tempered, non-confrontational, low maintenance, calm, unperturbed,
unflustered
Boy, oh boy is this topic ever one that I learned how
to become, and did so in a hurry!
I once was the complete opposite: excitable, lead by
emotions, and could unravel at a moment’s notice. I had to become the easygoing person that I
am, because not being so cost me friends, promotions, love, trust and much
more.
A good example of this would be about 7-8 years
ago. I was working at a remote location
of a homeless shelter. It was close to
the time that we woke everyone up and got really busy taking care of their
needs. I had been scrubbing and cleaning
all night, with disposable gloves on. I
had looked down and found that my engagement ring was not on my hand. I went into panic mode- as my co-worker and I
had taken the trash out and I had no clue where my ring was. I began to cry, begged my supervisor to let
me go home and see if it was there and just started to think all the negative
things that could have happened to my ring.
He was patient with me, set me up in a quiet room to gather myself and
allowed me to call home to ensure that I had actually had not worn it that
day. After a series of phone calls back
and forth from home, I learned that it was indeed safe and sound at home. This experience caused me a promotion and it
went into my yearly review as I was not able to be in control of myself. After working with a life coach, I learned
that I was to just breathe, carry on and let my day continue- then at home,
panic and react in a private location, out of the sight of many eyes.
I never realized how much I learned from this until I
started a new job. Little things didn’t
bother me as much as some of my colleagues and peers. A good example was
when we had a patient fall in the
hall. I didn’t go running out there and
make a scene- I was able to walk in a fast manner, use my visual and hearing
senses to see that patient was indeed ok, offer my assistance and back away
when asked to do so. When the patient
was able to, he came to me and thanked me for showing my care and concern, sharing
that it was nice to be cared for.
Being laidback in a health care setting is beneficial to
the health care provider and to the patient.
When we are relaxed in our work with our patients, we are able to
connect and gain trust. It opens the
floor for discussions that can lead to health promotion or a health counselling
session. How we are affects how the
patient feels; if we are relaxed, our patient who may be stressed, worried,
concerned, scared, overwhelmed will feel less so, or may be even able to relax. We can be confident and relaxed at the same
time: which gains a professional relationship with those we are to care
for.
Being laidback as a private citizen can assist in our
relaxation and enjoyment of life, in a “Don’t sweat the small stuff”, kind of
way. Ever find that if we are unflustered
about a decision we are to make, that the solution comes clearly and
swiftly? Being peaceful brings peace to
a household full of chaos. We can still
be busy and productive. However, if we
are calm about how we tackle and do things, this can lead to more enjoyment in
what we do.
There are times to worry, to be concerned and
excitable. Don’t let these times take
over the rest of your life.
Breathe. Let it be. Break it down and tackle small portions and
the larger problem will disappear. Talk
it out. Reflect. Rest on it. Pray. Slow down.
Don’t be a perfectionist. Refocus
on the positive things in your life, not what has to get done or the negative
thoughts that pop up. Be flexible. Get
creative. Let it go.
”Right now I am trying to be in a place of calm, a place where I can chill
out and then handle the chaos of life better. You don't just get it overnight;
you have to work at it. It's a daily struggle.” ~ Jackee Harry
Let Go and Let God.
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